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Crafting a Happier Life: The Inclusion of Pleasure in Your Toolkit

Is pleasure at the top of your list when you think about making your life more pleasant and fulfilling, calmer and generally better? Do you tend to ignore your need for sexual pleasure? Keep reading...

In the pursuit of a fulfilling and joyful life, we often seek various tools to navigate the complexities of existence, we focus our attention on self-care practices such as yoga, fitness, meditation that are more 'socially acceptable' and we tend to ignore those related to the word pleasure. We're used to thinking about sex in relation to the people we share this experiences with, but this is not about that, this is about our relationship with ourselves. Very often, we think about it as indulgent, heavy conversations, prohibited, tabu. But to be honest, sexual pleasure is a need like any other, and as valuable as our yoga practice, meditation or any other wellness experiences. It is also our responsibility to meet it, because our sexual life ultimately starts with ourselves, and it means that we know ourselves inside-out.

Pleasure, in its essence, is a subjective experience that brings joy, contentment, and satisfaction. It manifests in diverse forms, ranging from the sensual delight of a favorite meal to the intimate connections forged through sexual intimacy. Understanding the diverse nature of pleasure allows us to appreciate its impact on different aspects of our lives. However, sexual pleasure, a fundamental aspect of human experience, plays a crucial role in our emotional and physical well-being. It's one of our most basic needs. Scientifically, engaging in consensual sexual activities (or by ourselves) releases endorphins and oxytocin, contributing to stress relief, improved mood, gives us more patience, and strengthened emotional bonds. It is so important, that we would be doing ourselves a disservice not talking honestly about it. Open discussions about pleasure contribute to breaking down stigmas, fostering healthier relationships, and promoting positive attitudes towards self-discovery and fulfillment.

Beyond the realm of sexual pleasure, non-sexual pleasures hold equal importance. Engaging in activities that bring joy, whether it be pursuing hobbies, spending time with loved ones, or savoring moments of tranquility, contributes to a more profound sense of happiness. Non-sexual pleasures provide opportunities for self-discovery, personal growth, and the cultivation of a positive mindset. Striking this equilibrium requires self-awareness, introspection, and an understanding of personal boundaries.

And we all need special treats in our lives. It is not about being indulgent, but rather learning about meeting our needs and knowing what it's good for your health (both physical and mental health). It's a true act of self-love and incorporating pleasure into your toolkit for a happier life involves recognizing its multifaceted nature and understanding its impact on both sexual and non-sexual aspects of our existence. Embracing pleasure, free from judgment and societal constraints, will allow you to cultivate a more authentic, joyful, and fulfilling life. By consciously choosing experiences that bring pleasure—whether in the realms of intimacy, self-discovery, or simple daily joys—you can craft a life that resonates with happiness, resilience, and a profound sense of well-being.

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