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How to overcome being a perfectionist?

If you see mistakes when others don't see any, it's hard for you to trust and delegate or you are extremely hard on yourself whenever something goes wrong, maybe you are a perfectionist too

A perfectionist is a person who has extremely high standards for themselves and others, and is often preoccupied with the pursuit of perfection in their personal and professional life. Perfectionists often are highly self-critical when they do not meet those goals. They may be highly organized, detail-oriented, and have a strong need for control. Perfectionism can be both a positive and a negative trait. On one hand, it can lead to high levels of achievement and success, but on the other hand, it can also lead to feelings of inadequacy, stress, and disappointment if one is unable to meet their own high standards. It can also lead to procrastination and anxiety, as well as to problems in relationships and social interactions. The pressure to be perfect can come from many sources, such as family, friends, teachers, coaches, and the media.

Here are a few strategies that may help you overcome perfectionism and be more open to others and different experiences:

  1. Set realistic and attainable goals: Instead of striving for perfection, set achievable goals that are within your reach. Break larger goals down into smaller, manageable tasks that are more easily accomplished.

  2. Learn to accept imperfection: Recognize that it is impossible to be perfect and that mistakes are a natural part of the learning and growth process. Learn to accept and embrace imperfection, rather than viewing it as a failure.

  3. Challenge negative thoughts: Perfectionists often have a critical inner voice that tells them they are not good enough. Challenge these negative thoughts by questioning the evidence for them, and by reminding yourself of your accomplishments and strengths.

  4. Practice self-compassion: Be kind and understanding with yourself when you make mistakes, and remind yourself that everyone makes mistakes.

  5. Learn to delegate and ask for help: Perfectionists tend to want to do everything themselves, but this can lead to burnout. Learn to delegate tasks and ask for help when you need it.

  6. Prioritize self-care: Make sure to take care of your physical and emotional well-being by getting enough sleep, exercise, and relaxation.

  7. Seek professional help: If perfectionism is causing significant distress and impacting your daily life, consider seeking help from a therapist or counselor. They can help you work through underlying issues that may be contributing to perfectionism and teach you coping strategies.

Healing from perfectionism can be a challenging process, but it is possible with the right approach. It is important to note that not all perfectionists have the same experiences and factors that led them to become perfectionist, and it is a complex personality trait that can vary from person to person


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