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How to set healthy boundaries

It's important to remember that boundaries are not about saying NO but rather learning how to define your priorities and stick to them. When there is a need for setting healthy boundaries, it means that something is not working in your life and you are allowing too much into it. If you have any questions or concerns about setting healthy boundaries, the best thing to do is talk with someone who can support you through this process


Define your priority list and stick to it.

A good way to start defining boundaries is by creating a priority list. What are the most important things in your life? How can you ensure that these things remain at the top of the list? What do you want to achieve, and what do you not want to be around? When it comes down to setting boundaries with others, sometimes it can be difficult to say no when other people want us to take on more responsibilities. Part of setting healthy boundaries is having the courage to prioritize our own needs over those of others. This doesn't mean that we don't care about others or don't have compassion for them—it simply means that we have made an informed choice about where our energy goes and how we spend our time.


Be aware of what you are allowing into your life.

It is so important to be aware of what you are allowing into your life. The most important factor in setting boundaries is knowing yourself, what you need and how much time and energy you can dedicate before feeling overwhelmed. Make a list of the things that help you feel good about yourself and then determine which ones should be more highly prioritized than others. Be honest with yourself about how much time each activity takes away from accomplishing what is truly important to you in life—such as spending quality time with loved ones, doing something meaningful for society or taking care of yourself physically or mentally by practicing self-care activities such as meditation or yoga.

How do we set boundaries? One way that I have found works well is by asking ourselves these questions: How much am I willing to give up so others can take advantage of me? Am I going to let them use me up until I have nothing left? What boundaries do they need respect in order not only for my own peace but theirs as well?


Take a break from social media.

If you find yourself scrolling through Instagram or Twitter at the end of a long day, it may be time to say goodbye to these apps. The constant stream of photos and updates can be addictive, and they may cause you to feel bad about yourself by comparing your life with someone else’s highlights reel. Plus, research shows that heavy social media use can make people feel like they’re missing out on something important—even if that “something important” is just staying up-to-date with friends and family members who are far away from them geographically speaking!

Finally, spending too much time on social media can also distract us from our real lives by pulling us away from other relationships and commitments we have made outside of our online world (like going out for dinner with friends).


Declutter your space.

If you're like most people, you have a tendency to accumulate things that don't serve any purpose other than to clutter up your home. When this happens, it can negatively affect your mood and make you feel overwhelmed by the mess in your space. It can also cause anxiety about all of the things that need to be done before you can relax again.

So how do we get rid of all this clutter? Well first off I want to assure you that being able to let go of stuff is not a sign of needing help with mental illness (though if it makes sense for you then please seek out help). It's just a psychological skill that many people struggle with because they fear losing their memories associated with certain objects or items even though those items are no longer useful or needed in their lives anymore. But there are several ways to declutter:

  • Write down everything on paper and then throw away everything except what's written down! This method works well if there aren't too many items involved and takes less time than other methods described below; however it does require some writing skills so keep this in mind when considering using this method as an option for yourself!


Saying NO is an act of self-love!

Sometimes you will have to say no. Sometimes, saying no is an act of self-love.

It can be hard to say no when you think the other person will be hurt or disappointed by your decision. But knowing that it’s important for you to take care of yourself — and making sure your needs are met in order for you to function at your best — means that sometimes saying no is going to happen.

You know what feels right for YOU!


Saying “no” is an act of self-love and can also be one of the most difficult things to do in this world. But it’s important that you get used to it, because saying “yes” all the time will drain your energy and leave nothing left for yourself. Take care of yourself by setting healthy boundaries with others—not only will it help others respect your needs, but also give them a chance to grow as well!

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